Chastity explained

Chastity in a BDSM context refers to the consensual restriction of sexual access — typically through a physical device — as a form of power exchange. One person (the keyholder) holds control over the other's ability to experience sexual release, and that control becomes the centre of a dynamic that can range from a single scene to a permanent lifestyle arrangement.

The appeal of chastity dynamics

For the person in chastity, the experience is one of ongoing surrender — not a single moment of submission but a continuous state in which the keyholder's authority is felt every day, without interruption. The physical reminder of the device, the anticipation, the specific dependence on the keyholder for the most intimate kind of release — these produce an intensity and psychological focus that many describe as unlike any other form of submission.

For the keyholder, the appeal is the specific quality of authority that chastity provides: real, ongoing, embodied control over something the submissive wants completely. The power to grant or withhold, to extend the period or end it, to use the submissive's desire as the primary tool of the dynamic — this is a form of Dominance that operates continuously rather than only when both people are physically together.

Chastity connects naturally to orgasm control dynamics, financial Domination (where release may be tributed for), and broader service submission. It also has a particular resonance with male submissives — chastity devices designed for male anatomy are the most widely used, though the dynamic is available to everyone. Clear negotiation around duration, health considerations, and safe release protocols are essential.

Finding chastity partners

Chastity dating on Kink Connex connects keyholders and chastity submissives who are specific about what they want from the dynamic.