Are you a switch quiz — do you belong on both sides?

A lot of people who are switches do not know it initially — particularly because the kink world often frames orientation as a binary. The pull toward both leading and yielding, the way your preferred role seems to depend on the partner or the moment, the dissatisfaction with committing fully to one side — these are all signs worth examining.

This quiz is designed to surface switch tendencies. Answer based on how you actually experience kink, not how you think you should.

Work through each question and choose the answer that feels most true — go with your gut rather than what you think you should answer. Note your choices as you go, then scroll down for your results.

Question 1: When you imagine an ideal kink encounter, what role do you see yourself in?

A. Firmly Dominant — directing the scene, holding authority, being in control.
B. It genuinely depends — sometimes you picture leading, sometimes yielding, and both feel equally real.
C. Firmly submissive — following, receiving, being directed by someone who knows what they are doing.

Question 2: Have you ever found yourself in the opposite role to your 'usual' one and genuinely enjoyed it?

A. No — the other side holds no real appeal. I know which side I am on.
B. Yes, more than once — the experience was genuinely good, not just tolerated.
C. Not applicable — I do not have a fixed 'usual' role; it has always shifted.

Question 3: How does your preferred role shift with different partners?

A. It does not — I am the same role regardless of who I am with.
B. Significantly — with some partners I want to lead, with others I want to yield, and it feels natural either way.
C. Somewhat — but always within the same basic orientation.

Question 4: When you think about what draws you to kink, which statement is most accurate?

A. I am drawn to one specific side of the dynamic and always have been.
B. I am drawn to the dynamic itself — the intensity of power exchange — and find both positions compelling.
C. I am drawn to the other side of the dynamic from my own — the person I am playing with, not my own role.

Question 5: How do you feel about a partner who could switch roles with you within a relationship?

A. Uncomfortable — I want clear roles and I want to stay in mine.
B. Exciting — the idea of a dynamic that shifts is genuinely appealing.
C. It depends on the context, but I would want to discuss it carefully before committing.

Question 6: Which of these has come up for you in actual kink experiences or clear fantasies?

A. A consistent desire to lead — I always imagine myself directing.
B. Both — I have genuinely wanted to lead in some situations and yield in others, not as a compromise but as a real preference.
C. A consistent desire to yield — I always imagine myself following.

Question 7: How do you feel when you are asked to take the opposite role from your usual one?

A. Resistant — it does not interest me and I would rather decline.
B. Open, and often excited — the shift in dynamic is interesting rather than uncomfortable.
C. Curious but uncertain — I might try it, but it does not feel natural.

Question 8: Which description fits you best?

A. I know clearly which side I belong on and I have no desire to be anywhere else.
B. I find genuine satisfaction on both sides — the position is less important than the quality of the dynamic.
C. I have a strong preference for one side but occasionally feel the pull of the other.

Your results

Count up your answers and find your result below.

Mostly A — Fixed-role — Dominant or submissive

Your answers suggest a consistent, settled orientation toward one role rather than switch tendencies. You know which side you are on, it does not shift significantly with partners, and the other side holds little genuine appeal. That clarity is valuable — it makes compatibility assessment more straightforward. Go back to our Dominant or submissive quiz if you want to confirm which fixed role fits best, then find partners who match it on Kink Connex.

Mostly B — Switch — genuine dual orientation

Your answers consistently point toward switch orientation. Both sides hold genuine appeal, your preferred role shifts with partner and context, and you have found real satisfaction on both sides of the dynamic. Switch is not a halfway house between Dominant and submissive — it is its own orientation with its own specific pleasures and its own compatibility considerations. Read our full guide to what a switch is, explore the switch traits guides, and find partners on Kink Connex who value the full range you bring.

Mostly C — Primarily fixed-role with switch curiosity

You have a strong primary orientation but some genuine curiosity about the other side — which is different from being a switch but worth acknowledging. You might find that the right partner or dynamic surfaces that curiosity more clearly, or you might discover that your primary orientation is more settled than it currently feels. Either is fine. For now, read about switch orientation alongside the Dominant and submissive guides, and find partners willing to explore with you on Kink Connex.

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